God makes forgiveness easy. He never meant for you to do it alone; His Spirit en-graces you. By the example of Jesus, you know that ‘the Son of man has power on earth to forgive sins’ Lk.5:24. What Jesus could do on earth you can too.

Do not be deceived; to forgive is also to be willing to forget the injustice done to you, real or imagined. You cannot claim to forgive yet not forget, and refuse to relate with the offender for fear of repeat offence. To forgive seventy times seven times as prescribed by Jesus Mt.18:22 must mean that the offended person is still in fellowship with the offender!

The Word of God gives a sure-fire process for forgiveness; it begins with the offended person: ‘If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that “by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established” And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen… ‘ Mt.18:15-17.

Interestingly, Jesus goes on to state that what you loose on earth is loosed in heaven v.18. Loose the offender and let him go; realise that your neighbour may be ‘heathen’ but you have responsibility to love him as yourself.

Ask God to show you how you may have caused the offence and humble yourself before the one you consider has offended you. Take the initiative, whether or not he repents. It makes perfect sense to engage every effort at reconciliation, that we may have peace one with another Mk.9:50.

Offenders do not have full cognisance of the impact to themselves of causing offence Lk.17:1, else they would not. You who understand that they act in error, knowing these things, ‘blessed are you if you do them’ Jn.13:17b, for you are not ignorant of God’s word. Follow the example of Jesus who asked forgiveness of the Father for those who crucified Him, for they did not know what they were doing Lk.23:34.

You know you have grace to forgive; release yourself and others from imminent bondage!

How must forgiveness be done?