The one who forgives receives forgiveness. Since God will not hear you if you hold a grudge against another Mk.11:25, un-forgiveness blocks the path to answered prayer. You accept a mediocre existence, relying on your own strength, robbed of relationship with God and man, never enjoying fellowship with Him and others.

What are you doing to yourself when you fail to forgive?

* Forgiveness is one of the channels of the believer”s spiritual empowerment. Failure to forgive grieves the Holy Spirit. If you are aware of His ministry in your life – He helps, teaches, comforts, empowers – you will not want Him grieved. How on earth can we live the abundant life promised without enablement by the seven operations of the Spirit of God Is.11:2? Should we blatantly negate the command of Jesus to love, reject His Lordship and remain in bondage to the enemy, allowing him to take advantage of us, because we are ignorant of his devices 2Cor.2:11? Should we reject everything offered by the Giver of every good and perfect gift Jas.1:17?

The unforgiving believer has denied his spiritual status as a child of God; he has cut himself off from Spirit, Son and Father.

* You create divisions when you refuse to forgive. Not only do you break fellowship with persons who could have blessed you, all parties concerned are caused pain. Persons who may have no part in the conflict are forced to take sides. A people united are a formidable force; a minimum of two in agreement have invited the presence of God ‘for there the Lord commanded the blessing – life forevermore’ Ps.133:1-3. The enemy will do all he can to keep believers from unity, to deny us the blessing.

* Bitterness of heart robs you of the joy God commanded: ‘Rejoice always’ 1Thess.5:16. It is with joy that believers draw from the wells of salvation Is.12:3, therefore un-forgiveness is detrimental to our spiritual, and ultimately physical well-being. The offender and offended are in a state of sorrow, both are in bondage.

The one who is not forgiven is like the woman who wept at the feet of Jesus Lk.7:36-39 and 44-50. Jesus forgave her the sins the community held against her, and returned joy to her heart. You need a joyful heart to live the Kingdom life.

Apostle Paul, aware of the work of joy in the life of Christians, wrote to brethren in Corinth concerning their treatment of any who have caused pain: ‘… you should rather turn to forgive and comfort him, or he may be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow. Therefore I urge you to reaffirm your love to him… so that we would not be outwitted by Satan; for we are not ignorant of his designs.’ 2Cor.2:7-8, 11.

Your role is to forgive and comfort offenders, not to cause them sorrow; to reaffirm your love to them and not allow Satan use you against them or vice versa.

Failure to forgive causes more damage. Read next blog.